Scared of teenage years!
Man, I’m so scared of the teenage years.. I was blessed with a boy and a girl, but I am sure that this is God’s way of teaching me that raising them both will be much different.
One of my girl friends is having trouble with her son who is only 12 or 13. The school year has barely started and he’s already having issues and she’s considering yanking him from the school. I honestly don’t think it’s the school’s fault for what is going on with him, his dad is volitale and never around so he has a lot of anger and resentment that is bottled up and coming out in the wrong ways. I personally think he needs counseling, and mentoring mixed with some sports or other after school activities to keep his mind and body occupied. And all this going on is just making me look at my little man and wonder what kind of little boy he is going to grow up to be.
Looking at both me and the kid’s dad, I already recognize a few things. I was fairly shy when I was younger, and really couldn’t express myself. I know I’m an introvert and I see this in Kiera. My goal for her at this stage in her life is to get her to be more comfortable around strangers and enjoy some extracurricular activities. We tried to do this hip hop class that they have at her school but the instructor said she didn’t want to participate and sat out. I asked her why and she wouldn’t really talk about it. Last year she had two performances and both times she got on stage, her hands flew to her face and she cried the entire time. This is not the little bubbly girl that is at home.
Their dad is pretty calm, but he does have his moments where he lets his anger overcome him. I honestly suspect that he is a true bipolar but he wouldn’t take that seriously. I don’t see this in either kid yet, but I did see it in their grandmother, Dev’s mother, so I’m wondering if it will come out later in life.
Also, with their dad being gone all the time and not calling them on a regular basis, I’m wondering what kind of effect this is going to have on them. Which is another reason why I’m excited to move back to Oregon, because I do have quite a few friends there, male and female that could help be good role models and support for them.
This journey we have together is scary, but exciting at the same time. Raising them on my own is a challenge, and I can only do the best job that I can.